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Are you tired of feeling disconnected in a world that is more connected than ever? Are you sick of the comparison and constant busyness? Do you wish you could be your true self without judgement? Do you want more quality family time? How about addressing those secret addictions and creating some wellness boundaries? In this podcast you will find realness and laughter from a recovering people pleaser and a straight shooter... our mission is to help you become intentional, free, and confident in the world that is addicted to comparison, busyness, and “the hustle”. If you are ready to laugh with us, break through some emotional baggage and rise to the occasion which you were created for, then welcome to the club!! We are Tracy and Tori, two moms who met and discovered we shared the same feelings of discontentment and loneliness after moving our families across the country. Stepping out in faith and believing that God calls the UNLIKELY, we created this podcast to share our personal stories and encourage women to step out of their funk, not allow culture issues to hold them back and to walk with the Lord into who God created them to be…. together in community. If you are ready to put on your big girl panties and acknowledge reality, it’s time to ditch the self-care for soul-care! Get ready for 1 small change to have a ripple effect across your marriage, your kids and your purpose. When you are set free from cultural lies and other’s opinions, you have the freedom to move beyond the status quo and into who you were called to be. Pull up those high waisted yoga pants, tighten your top knot, reheat your coffee for the 3rd time, turn up the volume and let’s go! Connect ➡️ UnlikelyJoCo@gmail.com Instagram ➡️ UnlikelyHousewives Facebook ➡️ https://www.facebook.com/groups/1216668055475274/
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Tuesday Jul 05, 2022
Tuesday Jul 05, 2022
We believe in the And series does not discriminate in hard conversations. If fact, it’s the And that allows us to experience both feelings of the valleys grief and the mountaintops of living with gratitude.
Gratitude & Grief are two emotions that we walk through in all of the milestones and changes we experience in life.
We share our experiences of walking through the highs and lows of feeling both AND how it’s a must to experience each side of this spectrum in order to appreciate the other. When you experience grief, you know it doesn’t last forever because you have felt the happiness that comes from living fully in gratitude.
There have been so many phases of life such as going off to college, getting your first job, getting married, becoming new parents, moving, death of a loved one, kids graduating high school/college, walking by someone who has suffered from cancer or going through a divorce and so much more.
Life isn’t just a happy go lucky carousel that goes round and round…at some point you have to jump off and take some of the harder paths to fully live and grow. We encourage you to not just live in grief, but to also have gratitude for what you have and what’s to come.
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Hosted by Tori Shirah and Tracy Stine
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Tuesday Jun 28, 2022
Tuesday Jun 28, 2022
Have you experienced loneliness? Do you feel like you are chosen in your friendships? We believe you can feel lonely AND be chosen. It’s a part of building a foundational relationship and friendship.
Have you been through a season in your life of change and in turn your friendships and relationships change as well? We have experienced both.
We know that loneliness doesn’t discriminate: extroverts, introverts, influencers, celebrities, and from adults to children. We believe it’s so important to find the people who love you for you, who choose to be with you, and who check in on you during the good and the bad.
We have seen God use friendships in all seasons of life from our younger years to college, first jobs to getting married, having kids to experiencing trials or loss, workmates or walking alongside in the same business…all of which hasn’t been easy but has been life giving.
People struggle more now than ever having close friends because they worry about offending them, or we worry about what we saw on social media and tell ourselves a story about our relationships based on something they shared. Just like any relationship, even marriage…friendship is work. We must communicate our feelings, and be honest. A friend being honest is an act of kindness, not betrayal. Honesty needs to be held at a higher standard in your friendship.
You get to choose your friends, so choose the ones who are choosing you back.
We want to encourage you to experience fullness in friendship…yes, even though we know it takes work on both ends of the friendship.
💙 Book Recommendation: I'll Be There (But I'll Be Wearing Sweatpants)
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Hosted by Tori Shirah and Tracy Stine
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Tuesday Jun 21, 2022
Tuesday Jun 21, 2022
Tough AND love…we believe you gotta have both to develop solid relationships in marriage, friendship and parenting!
We know the pendulum swing of all feelings in motherhood…feeling like the weight of the world is on your shoulders to full on empowerment of raising world changers. You can feel one thing one minute AND one thing the next! Totally normal!
We also have enough experience to know that the butterflies don’t last forever…they come and go as you grow in your marriage but without
having some tough conversations, addressing the elephants in your marriage, the depth of your relationship comes to a standstill.
Intimacy is a must in marriage…emotionally AND physically!
Friendships come and go and some stay forever. We touch on this briefly as we have had to had some “come to Jesus” conversations with each other when the blinders were on and we didn’t see what God was asking of us.
Lastly we talk about the tough emotion that comes with the tough part of relationships…Anger. Anger isn’t a sin unless you allow it to destroy relationships! It’s also not easy to work through without tough conversations, help and even sometimes therapy.
Good news is there is always LOVE…bad news is it depends on how much love you want to feel if you aren’t addressing the tough parts holding you back from true incredible love in all your relationships!
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Hosted by Tori Shirah and Tracy Stine
Tuesday Jun 14, 2022
Tuesday Jun 14, 2022
Hey Housewives!
It's summer!! You survived the end of the school year, way to go! But... now what??
Do you look at summer with optimistic opportunities or do you dread the 2.5 months not knowing what you are going to do everyday with your kids?
Orrrrrr, are you BOTH?
Either way, we have GOT you! We know what it feels like to be happy summer has arrived and completely stressed out with the camp schedules.
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Hosted by Tori Shirah and Tracy Stine
Tuesday Jun 07, 2022
Tuesday Jun 07, 2022
We are excited to share with you our Summer Series “We Believe In The And”. What does this even mean? It means we are sick of the “buts” and you should be too. We fully believe you can feel both sides of the pendulum swing of life.
A “but” is what we insert when we are trying to validate our feelings for ourselves. Instead we are hoping to encourage you this summer to say “And”!
We want you to change your mind about how you view things. You don’t have to justify everything you feel with a but…you get to say “I’m a good mom AND I need a freaking break!” We are so sick of the mentality that we have to hide our feelings of the hard and really tough feelings we face in this crazy world we live in.
Once you realize the freedom that comes with believing in the And, and accepting the And…there is so much letting go of guilt & shame that reveals itself.
We want you to be encouraged this summer, to embrace where you are in life, the season you are walking through, and embrace the And!
Tune in every Tuesday this summer to feel some validation in where YOU are and to learn to grow with us and Believe in the And!
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Hosted by Tori Shirah and Tracy Stine
Contact us ➡️ UnlikelyJoCo@gmail.com
Tuesday May 31, 2022
Tuesday May 31, 2022
Today is Tori's anniversary! Yay!! To celebrate we are re-releasing "The Messes & Blesses of Marriage Part 2". If you get a chance, drop Tori a note on IG or FB and wish her happy anniversary! I know it would make her day!!
Much love,
Tracy XOXO
Hey Housewives!
We hope you enjoyed Part 1 of this episode with our husbands. In last week’s episode we shared how we each met our spouses, grew in our marriages, struggled with letting our husbands be the spiritual leaders of our homes and last but not least, how the pandemic affected each of our families.
💙 This week’s episode focuses on some more in depth conversations around what our husbands thought when we said we wanted to start a podcast. You have to know, before we recorded with them we told them they could be honest and not hold anything back. (We've always got Craig in our back pocket if it doesn't go as planned, right? ha!) We bet you can hear us blushing when they started to share their perspective as they gave us some incredible worlds of affirmation. (Awww 🥰)
💙 We talk about how difficult it is for some couples to parent together as the parenting styles we each grew up with were so different. We also acknowledge that after the kids come along, the dynamic of just being a couple can be a challenge as it takes intentionality in dating and communicating. Each couple is stronger in one area than the other, listen in to find out which one is which.
💙 “Living for self” is a struggle we each had at one point and it really takes us each having a relationship with Jesus, and a stronger one at that, to really focus on our marriage. We also know how important it is for each marriage to talk through the hardships and continue to work at being a team during the tough parenting years.
💙 We each share some challenging conversations we’ve both had in our marriages around us putting our husbands on pedestals, putting them at a higher standard than they actually can meet. Believe it or not, our husbands are not our saviors.
💙 The messes and blesses in marriage go together…evaluate where you are and where you can go!
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Hosted by Tori Shirah and Tracy Stine
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Tuesday May 24, 2022
Tuesday May 24, 2022
We LOVE this episode because it hits so close to home for both of us and what God has been pruning in our lives and teaching us through our relationships. We hope that you if you didn't get a chance to listen to Unoffended the first time around that you will listen to it this time.
Much love,
Tori & Tracy XOXO
Hey Housewives!
Have you ever been offended? Like really hurt by something someone said about you, your beliefs or ideas? How about when they have attacked your character? Then there are those times where we take offense by a story we tell ourselves…that probably isn’t true.
➡️ We share a couple personal stories of how we were offended and then ask the question…Is being offended justified? Sometimes? Always or never?
We were highly encouraged by a statement in the book “The Opposite Life” by Alex Seely (link below) and shared this quote:
“I truly believe there is a fine line between being offended and staying offended that can make or break someone.”
➡️We discuss what people often find offensive…
Racism, patriarchy, religious beliefs, political views, parenting styles, all the way to how someone dresses, what size they are, etc.
➡️Offending an idea sparks discussion, offending the person leads to hurt.
Ted talk we refer to:
https://youtu.be/f4JiSQxdl6M
➡️We want to recognize that being offended and then staying offended is a choice. There will always be people who are offended…whether that was the intent of the person inferring the offense or not.
➡️We also discuss what some of the reasons are for some people getting offended…past hurts not healed, comparison, unmet expectations and more.
➡️Offending someone if inevitable, so many emotions and feelings on high…BUT what if we learn to be intentional about living unoffended?
“Imagine a world where the people of God lived unoffended. Imagine a world where people pursued relationships even when they got hurt. Imagine a world where people lived like Jesus, full of God’s spirit, where nothing could affect their love and mission for the people God had called them to serve.” —Alex Seely
➡️So HOW do we live like that? We are human and when we are hurt, it hurts.
“When God comes into our lives to save us and make us whole, we need to receive the fullness of His love. Then when we face inevitable disappointment or hurt from others, we aren’t wounded and offended.”
Alex Seely’s “The Opposite Life” book we referenced:
💙 Are you living offended? We encourage you to let go of some past hurts and feelings in order to let go, and let God! Live more freely, with joy & peace.
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Hosted by Tori Shirah and Tracy Stine
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Tuesday May 17, 2022
Tuesday May 17, 2022
It is hard to believe we are already in the middle of May! May is a busy season for mamas with the field trips, school parties, graduations, field days, and etc! And while summer can be relaxing, we can also get lost in all the camps, playdates, and pool dates: we encourage you to keep evaluating your schedule and being able to find joy in your chaos and say NO to the stress and activities that are stealing your joy. We would love to see what you are LOVING! Tag us on IG or FB!
Much love,
Tori & Tracy XOXO
Hey Housewives!
This week’s episode is going to cover a great deal of things as we address being overscheduled mamas and families. Our main goal with discussing this topic is to challenge you to ask yourself a few questions & determine if you are finding joy in all of the busyness or if you are living underwhelmed. Our hope is that you would bring awareness to some of these feelings whether excited for the next season of chaos or paralyzed by the thought that you don’t know how you’ll get everything done. Either way, there’s some encouragement on this episode for you.
When we sign our kids up for things whether sports, activities, camps, etc…we ultimately put ourselves in the position of being a manager, a chaos coordinator and for those of us who have multiple kids, we become carpooling schedulers.
At some point it becomes overwhelming and we do have to weigh the cost…not just money, it’s the time, energy, and what else we are sacrificing in our family.
While sports and activities are a huge part, what about the other things that happen to fill our calendars: birthday parties, play dates, homework, and keeping up with household chores such as: laundry, cooking, cleaning, etc. The lists keep growing and the ability to keep up gets to be too much sometimes that we just shut down. Is that the way we are supposed to be living?
Even our society and culture is training us to stay busy…they have convenience options for us to do grocery pick ups, door dash for fast food to be delivered to you, and Tracy’s personal favorite: Instacart…groceries delivered straight to your door! (link below)
One thing we have each found important is setting boundaries. There needs to be room for white space in your calendar…the margin, between the busy schedule…to spend quality time in relationships: with your spouse, your kids, friends, other family members and most importantly, God!
We cover the common misused word “balance”. To us it is a double edged sword and for moms it’s undefinable. We like to say that the only thing you can truly balance is your priorities.
We ask these questions: Is it true that we have to be this busy? Or has culture created this and FOMO keeps us there? Are you feeling underwhelmed? What is your personal capacity?
The truth is that busyness will stick around if you have kids unless you do something different to change it…this is life. So consider this…have you decided what your world looks like with complete peace and joy?
💙 What brings you joy? Your kids joy? Your spouse joy? Where’s your peace? Your margin? Evaluate…are you living for the next event and activity or are you living with your family? If it’s on a calendar, is it required? Does it bring you and your family joy? How does it affect the rest of the family?
Instacart link https://inst.cr/t/UHV3NEg1NTV2
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Hosted by Tori Shirah and Tracy Stine
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Tuesday May 10, 2022
Tuesday May 10, 2022
In honor of Mother's Day this past Sunday, we wanted to re-release our episode "You Actually Are A Good Mom" because we don't think you get to hear it enough! We encourage you to share it with another mama who needs some encouragement this week!
Much love,
Tori & Tracy XOXO
Hey Housewives!
We understand that being a mom makes you question everything, while also feeling like you know it all. Due to our current culture, we have resources and help from every angle, however we also have advice and criticism on EVERYTHING we do as a parent…which brings along so much shame & guilt for the motherhood journey.
We start this episode by sharing how initially doubting your own motherhood intuition is the beginning of mom guilt and developing that inner sense. It’s different for each of us, becoming moms, that first mom guilt for Tracy was “failing at breastfeeding” which led her into postpartum depression. Tori’s experience was going on an antidepressant due to anxiety while pregnant and having an 8 month old.
➡️ Mom guilt: my kid isn’t reading at grade level, my kid doesn’t play competitive sports, whether your kid goes to college, quality time with each kid, cooking for them or hitting the drive thrus, the way that you support your kids
➡️ We want to encourage you to not put yourself in a box to what type of mom you are: homeschool mom, stay at home mom, work from home mom, working mom, step mom, foster mom, adoptive mom. All those titles are just circumstance around you…it doesn’t define you, you’re a mom! Remove the adjective before mom and be confident that “You are a good Mom!” Motherhood doesn’t need to be defined as a certain type of mom.
➡️ Mom shaming is becoming more apparent due to social media and the freely sharing of conflicting ideas. It’s caused a lot of comparison: to what other moms have time for, their Pinterest ideas, how they are handling the pandemic and more. The feeling of if you aren’t doing it the way someone else is, you aren’t a good mom, is a false claim and we encourage you that you are exactly the kind of mom your kids need, and your kids are exactly what you need.
💙 What we want for you is to say “I’m a good mom”…not I’m a good mom because I do this or that…just simply “I’m a good mom”
💙Housewives, each one of you are a good mom 💙
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Hosted by Tori Shirah and Tracy Stine
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Tuesday May 03, 2022
Tuesday May 03, 2022
Hey Housewives!
We can’t believe we are here…wrapping up our first season of our podcast! We had no idea we would have a season, let alone how many episodes we’d get to before a break or even how many downloads we’d have. We just started and prayed.
In this episode we share with you our favorite clips whether funny, impactful, or emotional. We review some highlights of our behind the scenes on our top episodes and what you may need to go back and listen to if you missed.
💙Ep #1 Unapologetic: I’m not who I used to be and that’s ok
💙Ep #6 Unfinished: the hangover of resolutions
💙Ep#11 Fostering through a pandemic
💙Ep# 8 Unhealthy head trash
💙Ep #9 You are actually a good mom
💙Ep #13 Mama in waiting…Infertility journey
💙Ep #3 Boundaries
💙Ep #21/22 Messes and Blesses of marriage
Lastly we close by sharing a few pieces of how we grew personally and technically in our podcast in the last 6 months. We started in a closet and now our setup is in Tori’s basement.
We cannot wait to kick off our summer series…we’ll launch our trailer on May 24th with episode 1 being released on June 7th.
🥰 Don’t worry, we’ll be releasing some of our favorite episodes for the next couple of weeks.
Until next time, Housewives, let us know what your favorite episode has been out of all 25!
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Hosted by Tori Shirah and Tracy Stine
Contact us ➡️ UnlikelyJoCo@gmail.com