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Are you tired of feeling disconnected in a world that is more connected than ever? Are you sick of the comparison and constant busyness? Do you wish you could be your true self without judgement? Do you want more quality family time? How about addressing those secret addictions and creating some wellness boundaries? In this podcast you will find realness and laughter from a recovering people pleaser and a straight shooter... our mission is to help you become intentional, free, and confident in the world that is addicted to comparison, busyness, and “the hustle”. If you are ready to laugh with us, break through some emotional baggage and rise to the occasion which you were created for, then welcome to the club!! We are Tracy and Tori, two moms who met and discovered we shared the same feelings of discontentment and loneliness after moving our families across the country. Stepping out in faith and believing that God calls the UNLIKELY, we created this podcast to share our personal stories and encourage women to step out of their funk, not allow culture issues to hold them back and to walk with the Lord into who God created them to be…. together in community. If you are ready to put on your big girl panties and acknowledge reality, it’s time to ditch the self-care for soul-care! Get ready for 1 small change to have a ripple effect across your marriage, your kids and your purpose. When you are set free from cultural lies and other’s opinions, you have the freedom to move beyond the status quo and into who you were called to be. Pull up those high waisted yoga pants, tighten your top knot, reheat your coffee for the 3rd time, turn up the volume and let’s go! Connect ➡️ UnlikelyJoCo@gmail.com Instagram ➡️ UnlikelyHousewives Facebook ➡️ https://www.facebook.com/groups/1216668055475274/
Episodes
Tuesday Feb 14, 2023
Tuesday Feb 14, 2023
We hope this episode brings laughter to your day. Laughter is the best medicine after all.
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Hosted by Tori Shirah and Tracy Stine
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Tuesday Feb 07, 2023
Tuesday Feb 07, 2023
“Vulnerability builds intimacy and trust.”
You are going to love this episode with our guest, Noreen Dupriest. Tracy has been working with sweet Noreen as her therapist for herself and with her husband, Chris, to help in redefining their marriage and helping to build them stronger together.
Noreen has a Master of Science in Marriage and Family Therapy, working with individuals, couples, and families. She is married, has 4 boys and never leaves home without her red lipstick. Noreen loves being an artist and a sculptor. The areas of focus in her office are: Anxiety, Couple Conflict, Depression, General Unhappiness, Infidelity, Loss, Grief and Heartbreak, Low Self-Esteem, Relationship Problems, Religious, Spiritual, or Faith Concerns and Women’s Issues.
In this episode we highlight:
—Tips and advice for someone considering therapy.
—Reasons why some may be fearful of taking the first step into therapy.
—Learning to sit comfortably in the discomfort, in order to process what’s really going on.
—Therapy is a place to, in your time, find your safe place to break down and allow the issues to unfold.
—You have value. Period. For who you are, not what you do. Sometimes you just need to be reminded of what those characteristics & attributes are.
—Childhood trauma creates such a mindset that puts expectations and standards on yourself and other relationships that just cannot always be met.
—Generational patterns will repeat themselves or Either you sit in that heat and realize that heat will either break you or bend you…you have to decide.
—“Expectations are the number one killer of relationships.”
Recognize it just takes ONE person in the family system to change and work on things to change the whole system.
Scripture reference:
“The Lord will fight for you, you need only to be still.” Exodus 14:14
Book reference:
“Wild at Heart” by John Eldridge.
What Did You Expect - Audiobook
“What did you expect” by Paul David Tripp (Rebranded Version)
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Tuesday Jan 31, 2023
Tuesday Jan 31, 2023
As women we have a tendency to set expectations for ourselves, our kids, our marriage, our friendships and we feel disappointment when these expectations aren’t met. It’s become a battle within and something we have each struggled with more recently and wanted to share some encouragement.
Anyone hit a milestone birthday and you take a minute to reflect and realize you just aren’t where you wanted to be with your personal goals?
Maybe your career, your health, being married and having children?
Have you set some expectations that aren’t being met because they are actually out of your control, but you can’t let go of that control?
We share with you the two reasons we have recognized for our own unmet expectations and hope they help you.
Our top two reasons for unmet expectations:
- Lack of communication…even with yourself! If you have a goal, a love language, something you value, tell your spouse, a friend, write it on your mirror to hold yourself accountable. We know what it’s like to break a promise to yourself time and time again…it’s time to break that cycle.
- Unrealistic…if you have the bar way too high for your current circumstances, then your expectations of someone, or even yourself are surely not going to be met.
We also believe there’s an issue with having silent expectations for others as it is just unfair to hold anyone to something they don’t know about. Have you ever taken a moment to write down and make yourself aware of your unmet expectations…what is important to you personally, in your marriage, and other relationships. It’s so freeing when you start to become comfortable communicating exactly what you want and need!
Communicate your expectations with everyone…it will only help you feel more authentic, and will help you feel free from all the internal judgment, guilt, shame and anything that is holding you back.
Book links mentioned in this episode:
“I Guess I Haven't Learned That Yet: Discovering New Ways of Living When the Old Ways Stop Working”
“What Did You Expect? (Redesign): Redeeming the Realities of Marriage”
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Tuesday Jan 24, 2023
Tuesday Jan 24, 2023
Hey Housewives!
Welcome back for Season 2! We are so thankful for our 4 month break and all the lessons we’ve learned. We are excited to be sharing with you this season from a new perspective that “Nothing is wasted.”
“And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.” Romans 8:28NLT
Do you find yourself living moment by moment but not fully living?
Do you feel like your life has gotten back to “normal” after these last few years?
How are you handling the stress you’ve been under?
What does your emotional load do to your body physically?
Are you bitter, angry & confused OR are you at peace, feeling a greater sense of purpose and enjoying the slower pace of life?
Have you attached yourself to a false identity?
If you have experienced a hardened heart, a loss of identity, or are struggling to see hope, we are here to tell you that “nothing is wasted”. We are a couple of pretty honest women who share about some of our struggles we’ve gone through in a difficult season. Family life and marriage is ALWAYS a top priority for each of us, and yet it comes with a variety of seasons and struggles as well. Mama, if you are struggling personally, it is truly hard to manage it all. We are here to say “it’s ok…you are not alone”.
“Bring the joy” is going to be our new focus for 2023. We know that finding who you are, living for your purpose and going through hard seasons in life moment after moment is difficult, but if you have true joy that only comes from having a relationship with Christ, that you can still be joyful!!
Jack Hibbs Pilgrims 20:23
https://youtu.be/NSDaESJTuR0
Book link: Nothing Is Wasted: A True Story of Finding Peace in Chaos
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Hosted by Tori Shirah and Tracy Stine
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Tuesday Dec 06, 2022
Tuesday Dec 06, 2022
Y'all!! It has been a YEAR for the Unlikely Housewives Podcast! We cannot believe it! And we have YOU to thank!
In this episode, we look back on the past year and what God has done through this podcast and in our lives. There were a couple lessons learned too.
➡️ There is a big difference between quitting, getting lost, and pausing.
➡️ Work when you can work, and then when you have to PAUSE it is okay!
➡️ We can share from a place of struggle, not strength.
➡️ Work for an audience of ONE.
➡️ You are still not alone.
What do YOU want to hear about? Is there a topic you want more of? Ask us a question! (email: UnlikelyJoCo@gmail.com)
We will see in January!!
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Thursday Sep 08, 2022
Thursday Sep 08, 2022
Vision Boards… They are a big point of focus in business to help us manifest, dream bigger, and be more motivated.
But what if we are looking at vision boards all wrong? Why do we put the incentive trip, the luxury car, and the next promotion on our boards? Because that’s what we are told to put on the boards! Of course, we will put some family specific items too, right? Like that family trip to Disney that you want your business to pay for or the home appliance you’ve been dying to replace.
However, are you going to be okay if God’s plan for you does include the luxury trip and car and next promotion in your business?
Very rarely does God's purpose and calling for us show up with the vision of the all-expense paid trip. Yes, that is an incredible BONUS to have but that’s simply not for everyone. What vision is God giving you that is consistent?
The most peace and contentment you will ever feel is when you are in the smack-dab middle of God’s will for your life.
When we are told about purpose and calling in the bible, it never says that a purpose equals a career. He may use your career to help facilitate our calling in life, but it does not require it.
Who’s vision are you chasing, yours or God’s?
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Tuesday Sep 06, 2022
Tuesday Sep 06, 2022
Hey Housewives! In honor of National Suicide Prevention Week, we thought it would be a great opportunity to re-release our episode with the founders of #GiveMe20 BJ & Sylvia. If you haven't already, be sure to check out the resources here at the bottom of these show notes. We also encourage you to share this episode on your social media feed this week (and tag us)! You never know who needs these reminders.
Trigger warning: This episode is on suicide and suicide prevention. We discuss the loss of two teens and give hope and helpful resources for suicide prevention.
Join us as we have a candid conversation with two mothers who are turning their pain into a greater purpose.
Statistics show, often teens are choosing to end their life in a snap decision. Lost in a moment of darkness, many teens go from thinking about suicide to acting on it in less than 20 minutes. Just 20 minutes to decide life isn’t worth living. Both families realized they had to do something to educate teens and the people who love them. #GiveMe20 was born.
Two amazing Kansas City area teens, 17 year old Chad Harrell and 16 year old Regan Johnson, tragically ended their lives in 2017. Both teens were happy and making plans for tomorrow, next week, next year... yet both teens ended their lives suddenly and without warning. Their moms, Sylvia Harrell and BJ Thomas Wilson, joined together through the common bond of losing a child, began to ask questions and research things that would have helped their children.
We were so honored to have BJ & Sylvia share their stories, hearts and resources with us for this episode.
“Suicide doesn’t end the pain, it transfers all the pain to the ones you love.” -Sylvia
National Suicide prevention hotline: 800-273-8255 or Text HOME to 741-741
To learn more about Sylvia and BJ and their foundations, check out the links below to connect.
GiveMe20: Amazon Wish List
GiveMe20.LifeBox - Home Facebook
Keep The Spark Alive - Home | Facebook
Shifting Gears - Home | Facebook
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Tuesday Jul 26, 2022
Tuesday Jul 26, 2022
"It was through pride that the devil became the devil" - C.S. Lewis
We are farrrrrrr from perfect but how easy is it to start the comparison game of "at least I'm not as bad as 'so-and-so', I don't do drugs, I haven't been to jail..." and that list can go on and on. All of sudden we are putting ourselves above those around us... and that is very HUMAN. But we shouldn't be comparing ourselves to other humans, we need to be comparing ourselves to the ONE perfect human, Jesus Christ.
This is not about beating ourselves up. This is about realizing we need more self-compassion rather than self-confidence. What is self compassion? Shauna Niequist in her book I Guess I Haven't Learned That Yet: Discovering New Ways of Living When the Old Ways Stop Working she says "self compassion is letting yourself off the hook letting yourself be human and flawed and also amazing it gives yourself credit for showing up instead of beating yourself up for taking so long to get there."
Tom Brady "There's got to be more than this..."
And as hard as it is to learn humility and how to be humble, it's even more difficult to teach our children the value and lesson of humility. If you are not in the word, if you are not in a close relationship with Christ then you truly are not going to see how much of a sinner you are and how much grace you do in fact need.
💙 Do you have peace in your heart knowing that other's judgments and opinions mean absolutely nothing compared to how much Jesus loves you and adores you?
💙 Where do we learn humility?
💙 Send the Happy New Year's Card in July, who cares!
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Tuesday Jul 19, 2022
Tuesday Jul 19, 2022
Who was raised with the beliefs to never talk about politics, race or religion? Who was raised growing up talking about both freely? Tori and Tracy each have a different story that may shed some light on how these topics can help or hinder understanding one another.
One common theme for them both is that we discovered if we aren't talking, we aren’t learning. And it’s so important to learn where each other comes from to understand their beliefs and values. Perspective is everything.
“I never considered a difference of opinion in politics, in religion, in philosophy, as a cause for withdrawing from a friend.” Thomas Jefferson
We found this above quote to be one that pertains more now to our culture today than ever before.
Bulgarism Video: CS Lewis reference
We cover some common stereotypes that have been used in referencing those of faith and in political parties yet we believe This gives false understanding of who people are and what they truly believe.
Not talking, learning and involving yourself and understanding leads to
Avoiding conflict with relationships you value.
Our hope is that friends will give more weight to the person they've known for years, more than whom she chooses to vote for.
There’s also something to say about finding people who align with you, your views and your values.
“You don’t lose friends because real friends can never be lost. You lose people masquerading as friends, and you’re better for it.” ~Mandy Hale
We call this pruning!
Just remember that whenever you are in need and want support, you will need friends, and not governments.
What to do if people don’t have the same view points as you?
💙Accept the fact that not everyone needs to be in your inner circle
💙Talk on the phone or FaceTime, not in text or messaging…you need to hear their heart and voice.
💙Also, Gma was right, you can agree to disagree…we like to say “you can agree AND disagree AND still be friends”
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Tuesday Jul 12, 2022
Tuesday Jul 12, 2022
In this summer series “We Believe in the And” we are focusing on some cultural challenges that have come up probably due to social media, struggling through the pandemic, etc…and in this episode we are focusing on the AND of being A Mom & A Badass.
Mamas, it doesn’t matter if you do anything else at all during motherhood…if you’re a mom, you are a badass…it’s both/and. Mamas if you choose nothing else other than to love your children with everything you’ve got, then you are a badass. If you choose to be WAHM, corporate moms, teacher mom, ministry mom…whatever else you do alongside your motherhood is perfectly a-ok and y’all are badasses. Period.
One of our greatest struggles is finding the work/life balance when we are trying to do more and keeping boundaries around family time. We encourage you to do have awareness and be intentional with your time to keep this balance. Do you know your red flags when the tide begins to turn? You can be passionate about something other than your children and it is truly ok. God has created each one of us for His purpose and if He has given you something with deep meaning and purpose that can come alongside being a mother, then absolutely go for it. You are a badass!
We have each struggled with the feelings of killing it in our business one minute and then shaming ourselves for missing out on being our best as a mom. We have talked many times on this podcast about mom guilt and we don’t comply…we cannot feel guilty for doing the best we can in managing all that we do. The feelings of guilt and shame do not come from God…don’t accept them b/c they serve no purpose!
💙 We want you to celebrate the AND of being a mom and a badass. Celebrate stepping up into God given courage and confidence and shine bright mama because you are a badass!
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